Hypnotherapy For Happiness!

Well it seems that Summer in much of the UK right now is giving us much to be cheerful about; more than two days of glorious sun in a row and Murray winning at Wimbledon. Perhaps you’re working on your tan right now, sipping chilled wine and polishing off the last chargrilled burger on your freshly scrubbed barbecue set? The birds are cheeping , glasses are chinking (sorry) and you’re  far away from the office and all the stress……

Man and a Woman with Their Heads Together Smiling

Are you happy though?! Right now? Give yourself a moment to give this a proper ponder…

According to famous thinker J.S Mill as soon as you ask yourself this question you stop being happy. It causes you to over analyse and doubt how you feel, right now in the moment. Furthermore, a lot of modern research  supports the theory that it’s by being fully immersed with every detail of our lives, whether good or bad, that we find happiness. Don’t bother trying to chase after it or look for it in exotic places or on the screen of your ipad..

The famous Austrian Psychologist Victor Frankl had some wise words;

‘Don’t aim at success- the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you’re going to miss it’ For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued, it must ensue… as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a course greater than oneself’ 

 

So, if we all desire to be happy(it’s supposed to be our number one desire according to Aristotle) then how does this help us?  Does it mean that success or happiness is a by-product of fate or chance and that we don’t have any say in the matter?

As a hypnotherapist and peformance coach in Bournemouth who has helped a wide variety of people make amazing transformations in their lives, I’m convinced that people can create for themselves a great deal more happiness and success. We can all make this transformation but it won’t always be easy. It might involve breaking out of our ‘comfort zones’ or being prepared to feel stretched or challenged occasionally. I believe that to overcome the anxieties and depressions of modern life, we must become more in control of our own minds.We must be able to create our own rules and our own rewards instead of always looking for them on the outside.

Contrary to popular belief, the best moments in people’s lives, the special moments are not the relaxing, pleasant times, where we have lazed on a beach in the Bahamas. The latest research proves that our best, dare I say it ‘happiest’ moments often occur when our body and mind is stretched to the limit to achieve something challenging and worthwhile. We feel a sense of enjoyment and exhilaration and we are so focused on the task at hand that we ‘forget’ time.

Events like these don’t just occur in favourable times and situations. People who have  lived through the most terrifying ordeals have often remembered that in amongst the chaos, they experienced the most extraordinary epiphanies after hearing a piece of music or sharing a meal with friends. It seems to be that simple pleasures are the most enduring and important.

To really enjoy life we must feel like we have some sense of control over our circumstances. And because most things are out of our control (like the weather!) it’s crucial that we are able to master the one thing we do have conscious control over- our mind.

Have you ever travelled to the most exotic and beautiful places only to find your worries had followed you there? Or sat through an amazing musical performance that you know should astound you, but instead you spent most of it thinking about paying the bills or an impending meeting? We’ve all experienced this and it occurs because we have mometarily forgotton to focus only on the present moment. As a top athlete might say- we are not in the ‘zone’ or in ‘flow‘. We’ve allowed thoughts of the past and thoughts of the future to prevent us enjoying the present moment.

Hypnotherapy for Performers

From my experience as a hypnotherapist  for singers and other performers I’ve discovered that people perform best when they are inside this state of ‘flow’. Interestingly, the feeling is very much like being in a trance or being  ‘hypnotized’.  It’s a feeling of relaxed focus, a calm state in which people are so involved  in an activity that nothing else seems to matter.It’s in this state that we fully express our desires, talents and personalities, just like we did when we were children and hadn’t yet learned to doubt ourselves!

At my hypnotherapy practice in Parkstone, I’ve succeeded in helping sportspeople  ‘get into the zone’ and quieten all of the distracting critical thoughts that previously stopped them playing consistently well. I’ve used the power of hypnosis to help clients gradually cut out negative thoughts so they can focus more easily on enjoying the present moment.

And perhaps the best thing about my job is that whatever a client comes to see me for, whether it be weight-loss, smoking or curing a phobia of flying, the vast majority leave my consulting rooms both happier and more in control of the way they think and feel.

If you’d like to experience greater ‘flow’ and happiness in your life then why not contact me on 0798 444 1710 or send me an email at kristian@naturalmindhypnotherapy.co.uk and we can then have an informal and enjoyable chat about how I can help you.

Enjoy the sun:)

Kristian